Admonish – 1 Corinthians 4:14
I’m not writing this to shame you, but to warn you as my dear children.
Paul seeks to correct, rebuke and encourage without shaming. This is a fine line to walk but truly the only way to build others up in Christ. There must be a way to talk about the hard things without making it purely petty and personal. Our motive must be pure. Our hearts must truly seek the well being of the one we are addressing; otherwise, the result will not be of God but of ourselves and will naturally produce anger and shame in those we are addressing. It seems to me that the longer we drone on and the more personal we become the more likely we are to produce anger and shame rather than promote true spiritual growth.