But speaking the truth in love, let us grow in every way into Him who is the head — Christ.
Speaking the truth in love does not imply that we will find ourselves always speaking ‘nice’ things. It implies that we will always be speaking true things with grace because we love those to whom we are speaking. Love does not avoid confrontation. It avoids condescension. Love doesn’t just say what is soft and fluffy. It speaks what is hard and helpful. Speaking the truth in love involves some natural discomfort at times.
The motive for this speaking of truth into the lives of others must always be love. In this way, we truly build up the church with our words.
True words spoken in love always serve the purpose of building others up, even when what is spoken causes pain.
Often it is pain that ushers in the necessary change for growing into the likeness of Christ.